Can’t Help Lovin’ That Man… To Pieces

HAPPY NEW YEAR! What a fun time of year this is. A time to set intentions and take action steps to accomplish what you’ve decided you want to do, be or have in your life this year.

I want you to take five minutes to feel yourself in the romantic relationship you truly want this year.

I’ve asked permission to quote one of my treasured clients who must “be loved to pieces and love her man to pieces.” She knows what it feels like and refuses to settle for less.

When she says it, there’s a lightness, almost a giddiness, yet a strength to her. She’s not heavy, confined, restricted or restricting. There’s so much love flowing out of her and to her that you light up and smile just hearing her talk about it. Doesn’t that sound like something you’d want too?

BEING LOVED TO PIECES

Do you know what being loved to pieces looks and feels like? In order to have a great romantic relationship you need to define that for yourself.

So no matter whether you’re in a relationship or in the process of creating one, this is a great place to look and create.

Being loved to pieces. Can’t you feel the man treasuring you? Not smothering you, treasuring you. Valuing you, enjoying you, adoring you, getting you. Like in the movie “Something’s Gotta Give,” Jack Nicholson’s character really GOT Dianne Keaton’s character.

IT’S UNKNOWN

I find that when my clients encounter a man that loves them to pieces, they’re a little uncomfortable at first. It’s a new thing. And you know why? Because we don’t usually love ourselves to pieces until we work on ourselves. I’m definitely speaking from personal experience here.

One of the by-products of working with a coach is learning to love yourself. You certainly learn to like yourself. Ask a person who’s had a coach for a while and really worked on themselves, if they value and enjoy who they are. If the person is participating in the coaching sessions, then they are learning what they have that makes them exciting, awesome and precious. And believe me, there’s so much that is exciting, awesome and precious about you.

So you learn to get a kick out of yourself – even when your ego starts being mean, you’re able to quiet it down – and you’re really appreciating the little and powerful things about yourself. Then a man or woman appears, and they are so blown away that they’ve actually met a person who really likes, and even loves themself. And since you’re exuding love, the most natural thing in the world, is for the man or woman to feel the love and give it back.

HOW DOES IT WORK?

Here’s how it works – imagine loving your soul, heart and personality; and loving a partner to pieces and being loved to pieces. Madly, passionately, joyfully in love and loved by an available, healthy, strong man or woman.

See yourself giving and receiving this energy. Spend five minutes, 15 is better, a day, seeing and feeling this reality. You’re actually creating your reality this way.

Look at what is wonderful about you. Don’t let the critical ego convince you of flaws. We all have quirks – it makes us interesting, like lines on a face. The face is more interesting with lines than without them. As my husband – a photographer – says, “believe it.”

It doesn’t work to look to the man or woman to love you, so that you can then love yourself. If you do that, you’re bound to that particular person. And most of us don’t really like bondage. It doesn’t feel good.

So start off this New Year looking at what’s good about you. When the ego chimes in reminding you of the things you don’t like, tell it to get lost. It’s just a silly ego. It’s not your loving heart, wise soul and precious being.

Visualize yourself bathed in the light of love, sharing, giving, receiving. Feel yourself being loved to pieces.

imagine the possibilities…

© Carol Chanel