What Are You Creating? Joy or Drama?

We know that we create our lives. We either do it deliberately or by default. We either make decisions or decisions get made for us.

So what is it you want to create in your relationships? How are your relationships now? They are mirroring your current thoughts. I realize it may not be what you consciously want to create, but it is what you are subconsciously creating.

So let’s bring the truth to the surface so you can change it to what you want.

There are some people who want to have lives of drama, but most of us who find ourselves involved in drama, just don’t know how to change our situations. After all drama is rich and deep, but also ultimately exhausting and boring.

So how do you change from drama to joy?

First you start with an intention. If you are ready for joy, then start by thinking about how you want your life to be without the drama. Imagine your life the way you really want it to be. Think of all the positive things in your life. How things have gone your way.

Do you want to have a joyful, fun loving relationship with a man or woman who respects you, has integrity, honors their commitments, honors your boundaries? Add to that list.

Then answer the question WHY. Why do you want this relationship? This is crucial to you bringing it into creation. The WHY adds the richness and depth to what you want. It paints the picture with all the colors, texture and depth.

Then look to see if you have any doubts or negative thoughts. Those negative thoughts or doubts will block the flow of what you want.

So if you think that you can’t have a relationship without drama, then look at why you need drama. What does it give you?

Most of us who had or have drama in our lives were victims of someone early on. That was our real drama. We were young and innocent and someone took that innocence away from us. We had to survive and we lived with drama and it became familiar.

But as you heal from that through coaching, counseling or spirituality, then you can move past the drama in your relationships

Having drama in your life isn’t bad. There are lots of appropriate and healthy ways of getting the drama you used to get from relationships.

For instance, you can volunteer to work with homeless people. Or go to a children’s hospital and participate in programs for children who are battling cancer, aids or autism. Or go to a nursing home and help the elderly who have no one else to care about them. They have real drama and if you like drama that may be a perfect fit for you.

Now by allowing yourself to remove the drama from your relationships you are now free to create joy in them.

HOW TO CREATE JOY?

Choose it!

Start by bringing joyful thoughts into your mind.Appreciating all the things in your life. Look at the little things. The many blessings you already have.

Write down all the positive things in your life. Start with a blank notebook and a page for each topic. Write down all the positive things about your home, work, love life, family, friendships and health. Read it and add to it daily.

You create from the positive, not from the negative.Focusing on the negative only gets you more negative.

Also, and I’ve shared this before – start your day reading a powerful spiritual book instead of watching the news. Do your morning ritual with tea or coffee and peaceful music and enjoy the beginning of the day. Set an intention to experience joy each day. Choose joy!! Meditate to quiet your mind.

Choose to unconditionally love yourself. Stop when you criticize yourself or get angry with yourself. Be loving instead. Remember you are always growing.

Another aspect of joy is compassion. Be compassionate. The more compassionate you feel toward yourself and others, the more joy you will feel.

As you master unconditional love and compassion you will feel joy. Feel it moment to moment. That’s how joy works. It comes from being, not doing.

We are here to feel joy. From that joyful place we are uplifted and we have the ability to positively impact 10 million people. (See “Power vs Force” – Hawkins.)

Start by choosing joy and uplifting yourself and those around you.

imagine the possibilities…

© Carol Chanel