Are You Staying Too Long?

Do you notice you stay in relationships too long? Do you stay in jobs too long? Or stick with people who clearly pull down your energy – a friend or employee?

Why stay when it clearly isn’t working?

There’s usually one answer. Fear! Usually people are afraid they’ll never meet another man or woman. They’ll be alone and sad. They’ll never find another job; they’ll be broke and homeless. They’ll be punished for removing themselves from a negative friend.

Notice when you think from fear you’ve projected into the future and your thought about the future is negative. Why? You have a choice. You can choose positive or negative. Why choose the negative?

Better yet, come back to the present. The only way to guarantee what the future holds is through your thoughts.


In my last ezine, in the Resources section, I mentioned a fabulous book “A NEW BEGINNING II” by Abraham-Hicks. He writes about the “laws” of the Universe.

There are some “laws” that operate in the universe and one of them is the “Law of Attraction.”

You attract what you think about. Simple. Factual. So if you think you aren’t ever going to meet another love of your life, you won’t. If you think you won’t find a good paying job, you won’t. Want to choose differently?

Your thoughts create your reality. You attract what you think about and feel. YOU create what you want. Deliberately create it. Or YOU block it.

If you are with a man or woman who doesn’t want to settle down and you do, don’t stay hoping they’ll change. They just told you their truth.

If you’re in a job and they don’t respect you, why stay? Draw your boundaries, and if that works, great. If not, get moving.

We either deliberately create our reality or we create it by default. Which path are you on? Deliberate or default?

I notice my clients who make a lot of money don’t have self-worth issues. My clients who attract love and commitment don’t have self-love issues. My clients who have purposeful careers don’t have fulfillment issues.

One of my clients recently got engaged. She doesn’t have issues that men won’t love her. Because she’s not fearful about that, she attracted a fabulous man who loves her and wants to commit.

It’s so simple. I know it’s not easy. But it is simple. You are attracting your reality. What you see in your life is how you think. The car you drive, your relationships, your clothes, your job. So to change what you see, change your thinking.

Choose differently, think differently and you will attract differently.

If you want to attract love – the kind of love you want – then believe you are worthy of it. If anyone told you that you weren’t worthy or gave you that impression, they were lying. Change your mind. Don’t believe the lies.

We are all connected to Source. That means we are all worthy of anything and everything we want.


Here’s what I’d like you to try. Think of all the things you attract effortlessly. Then think about something you want, something simple and easy to attract. Feel the joy of having it, the purpose of having it, set your intention and attract it.

Notice it was easy to do. You do it all the time; you just don’t pay much attention to it, because it’s not a challenge for you. We are always attracting.

Then pick something that is a bigger challenge for you like finding the answer to a problem, getting trustworthy guidance on a financial issue, finding the right photographer or graphic artist. Pick something that is a stretch.

Set the intention, believe, open the floodgates, get out of the way, attract it and allow yourself to receive it.

Keep doing this until you get to your most challenging situation. It’s no different. You just think it is. It’s just your thoughts and feelings that make it different.

Trust the Universe, trust your connection to Source, trust you will attract whatever you desire. Then move your resistance aside and let it come in.

imagine the possibilities…

© Carol Chanel

Q & A

From Samantha a 41-year-old free-lance journalist in Dallas Texas:

Q: Carol, I seem to have the most difficult time attracting jobs that pay a lot. I’m an award-winning journalist but that just pays the bills. I need to be making more money. Do I need to give up being a journalist and just write for a hobby or be willing to live a life of survival?

A: Samantha, congratulations on the awards. It’s obvious that God / Source wants you writing for a living since that’s your talent. I remember hearing Marianne Williamson talking one time to a woman, who was an artist, telling her that if she was supposed to be an accountant she would have been given those skills. The Universe doesn’t want an artist doing accounting.

So the same is true for you. Source wants you writing. You have excellent skills and they have been recognized.

So let’s change your consciousness from one of surviving to one of thriving.

Start by writing down what you want to attract. What kind of assignments, what topics, how long, for what papers, how much you’re getting paid, how many a month? Details. Lots of details – that will be easy for you.

Then, using Wayne Dyer’s idea in “The Power of Intention” see the end result. See yourself receiving the checks. Or see your bank account overflowing with money. See yourself joyfully writing your articles and receiving your big paychecks.

The only thing that wasn’t working for you was that you had a consciousness of survival or LACK. By changing that thought process to one of thriving and ALLOWING you will attract to yourself the higher paying assignments and eventually have to turn some down.

We attract what we think, so change your thinking and feeling to one of abundance. Think of a famous journalist who is making plenty of money and model their attraction consciousness.

Have fun writing and attracting!!! What are you going to do with all your money?


In the last issue I mentioned the Abraham-Hicks book “A NEW BEGINNING II.” I knew I had found something really powerful and felt so uplifted reading the book.

So this weekend I bought their new book “Ask and It Is Given.” I was very excited. When I opened it up and saw the foreword had been written by Wayne Dyer I was really excited.

He’s been studying with Abraham for 18 years now. I think his success says everything about the power of the teachings.

Here’s a little of what he writes:

“Go to the tiniest of quantum particles, and you discover that it emanated from a source that vibrates so fast that it defies the world of beginnings and endings. This highest / fastest energy is called Source Energy. You and everyone and everything originated in this vibration and then moved into the world of things, bodies, minds and egos. It was in the leaving of this Source Energy in our body / minds that we took on our entire world of problems, illnesses, scarcities and fears.”

“The teachings of Abraham, essentially, are focused on helping you to return, in all respects, to that Source from which all things originate and all return to as well.”

“You will be reminded that you came from a Source of well-being and that you can either summon that higher vibrational energy to yourself and allow it to flow unimpeded in every aspect of your life, or you can resist it, and by doing so stay disconnected from that which is all-providing and all-loving.”

I encourage you to go to the Abraham-Hicks website and see what interests and resonates with you. I am overjoyed to find this source and thus thrilled to pass it on to you.

Their website is:

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I teach people to overcome the obstacles that keep them stuck yet longing for romantic relationships, more self-confidence and inspiration to accomplish their dreams.

We sometimes forget what it feels like to live from our hearts and souls. We forget the thrill of taking the brakes off and flying. Life is dull if we just live from our minds.

Are you - or someone you know - settling, for less than exciting, either in relationships or a career?

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Carol Chanel
Certified Life Coach 

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