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DON'T PULL THE PLUG ON YOUR POWER?
After
spending 10 restful days in Nantucket (an island
30 miles off the coast of Cape Cod) I notice how
much more alert my mind is. It must have been all
the clean air I was breathing. Or maybe my brain
rested as well as my body. Whatever the answer,
I highly recommend you take some time out this summer
to relax.
One
of the most relaxing things you can do is to focus
your energy on the positive. Focusing on the negative
really drains your energy.
I was
in a card store the other day looking for thank
you cards. I overheard the women behind the counter
gossiping. It turns out they were making their boss
wrong. As I chatted with them, one woman actually
told me she liked to make him wrong.
After
leaving the store I thought of how many people like
to make others wrong and the negative energy that
requires. Why do people do that?
It's
more than complaining about the person, it's actually
making them wrong for almost everything they do.
For instance, people seem to feel better if they
make their bosses wrong and seem genuinely upset
if they can't.
Who
are people you might make wrong? Husbands,
wives, parents, bosses, teachers, superiors at work,
in-laws, ex-spouses or siblings.
What's
the real reason you might make those people wrong?
They
are likely to have some power. And if you aren't
feeling powerful enough, or you don't have good
boundaries, or you're some how beholden to them,
you will look for reasons to make them wrong in
order to feel more powerful.
You
want to feel better, so you make them wrong. Seems
simple enough and relatively harmless. But is it
harmless? NO!
Making
people wrong takes an enormous amount of negative
energy. It drains you, wastes your energy and the
time you could be using to create positive things
in your life.
And
they will feel your negative energy. And that will
create a more contentious relationship than you
already have with that person.
So
what's the solution?
Take
your power back! If you're afraid of losing
your job, then start to look for another one. If
your spouse makes all the money and you're afraid
they'll leave you, then you need to talk to them.
If your siblings like to try to control your life,
don't let them. Thank them for their suggestions,
tell them you appreciate their input. Then make
your own decisions.
I want
to add one more thing - no one is the source of
money - not your boss, husband, partner, in-laws,
parents, etc. God / Universe is the Source. Allow
yourself to let the Universe bring you what you
need. It will be so much more than any one person
can bring you anyway.
I
hear so many people make their parents wrong for
how their lives turned out. It's important
to know the impact they had on you, but after that
you don't get to use it as an excuse for not living
a joyful, fulfilling life. I had a very tough childhood,
but it's not keeping me from being productive, loving
and having fun.
Look
at where you're giving your power away, draw boundaries,
take your power back and trust the Universe!
Life
is too short to spend it feeling powerless and wasting
your precious energy on the negative.
Choose
to take your life back! Choose to draw good boundaries!
Choose to have fun again. It's summer, take a break,
and dream about the life you want to create. Dream
of a magical wondrous life.
Imagine
the possibilities
© Carol
Chanel
www.carolchanel.com
One of my awesome clients told me about a lovely
book called "Journey to the Heart" by
Melody Beattie. It's a book of daily meditations
on the path to freeing your soul.
Here's
what she wrote for January 7th:
"Remember
To Be Happy. The sign hangs on the wall of a bagel
shop: 'Don't forget to be happy.'
"Sometimes
we get so bogged down in dealing with feelings,
issues, problems - the realities and details of
our lives - we forget to be happy. Often happiness
can be ours if we just remember to be happy.
"Joy
is a choice - a deliberate, conscious choice. That
choice is available to us each day. Our joy isn't
controlled by others or by outward circumstances.
Joy comes from a deeper place, a place of security
within us. It's an attitude, not a transitory emotion.
"Remember
to be kind. Remember to be loving. Remember to feel
all your feelings and to take care of yourself.
But most of all, remember to be happy."
I teach
people to overcome the obstacles that keep them
stuck yet longing for romantic relationships, more
self-confidence and inspiration to accomplish their
dreams.
We sometimes
forget what it feels like to live from our hearts
and souls. We forget the thrill of taking the brakes
off and flying. Life is dull if we just live from
our minds.
Are you
- or someone you know - settling, for less than
exciting, either in relationships or a career?
Call
me. You don't have to be stuck! And once you are
unstuck you can be joyful and free again!
If you
would like to explore working with me, please call
me at 310-998-8860.
You can
visit my website at:
http://www.carolchanel.com
You'll
find other articles there and more in-depth information
about both my services and me.
Carol Chanel
Certified Life Coach
http://www.carolchanel.com
mailto: carolchanel@verizon.net
310-998-8860
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